Ngayo yonke imiba yokuphuma kwabantwana, besidla ngokuyiva loo nto umzali, umntwana, iyure, ikhilomitha. Kutheni le nto sisebenzisa umxholo wokuba ngumzali, endaweni yokuthetha ngqo ngoyise okanye umama? Asinampendulo, kodwa ikhankanyiwe kuMmiselo wasebukhosini. Masicacise ukuba umzali uqondwa njengotata womntu lowo. Le ngcamango ibhekisa kwisihlobo, ngokubhekisele kwisifundo, ngokuthe ngqo kumgca wokunyuka.
Mhlawumbi Kwintsapho ngumzali omnye kuphela ongumzali, bobabini, okanye akukho namnye kubo, nokuba kwamkelwa okanye ngokufakwa amadlozi. Okubonakalayo kukuba ukukhuliswa ngootata ababini, oomama ababini, utata nomama, inye kuphela kubo okanye umgcini, umntu adla naye okanye akanayo, ayimiselanga ikamva lomntu.
Imisebenzi, amalungelo kunye nemisebenzi
Umsebenzi womzali uthathwa njengowona iya ngaphaya kokuthatha inxaxheba kwinkqubo yokuzala okanye, ukuba sithatha ixesha ngokubanzi kunelokuzalwa, kunokuthatha inxaxheba ekwamkelweni komntwana. Imizekelo nokuba ubandakanyeke kangakanani kwi ukuzala yomntwana ibalulekile. Ukuhlalisana, okanye ukungabikho kwayo, iya kuba yinto ehambelana nomntwana (inzala) ebomini bakhe.
Kuqhelekile ukuba ubudlelwane phakathi konyana okanye kwentombi kunye nabazali babo kudlule izigaba ezahlukeneyo, eqhelekileyo yokuqola. Obu budlelwane bunokuvela kwelinye icala ukuya kolunye, ixesha lokufikisa lelona xesha lokuphazamiseka, ngaphandle kwemeko ethile.
Asinakulibala ukuba bakho okanye abakho kubomi bemihla ngemihla, ngabazali ngabo kubonelela ngomthwalo wemfuzoKe ngoko, nokuba abaziwa ngumntwana, bayinxalenye yalo.
Uyintoni umzali wokugcina umntwana?
Emva kokwahlukana okanye uqhawulo-mtshato, okanye in iimeko zokungaphili, yintoni ukugcinwa nokugcinwa kwegunya labazali kwahluliwe. Igunya lobuzali luseti lwemisebenzi kunye namalungelo abazali abanayo ngokunxulumene nabantwana abangakhululwanga. Kwaye ukugcinwa kunye nokugcinwa kugxile ekuhlaleni kunye nabantwana. Umzekelo, ubase esikolweni, ubondle, uqiniseke ukuba basempilweni, banxibe ...
Xa bobabini begcina igunya labazali, kodwa kuphela omnye wabo ugcina unogada kukho imeko yomzali ogcina umntwana, kunye nomzali ongagciniyo. Abokuqala kubo bagcina ukuhlalisana kunye nomntwana omncinci, kwaye umzali ongagciniyo uya kuba nesibophelelo sokubonelela ngokutya kunye nelungelo lolawulo lokundwendwela. Ngokubanzi, ixesha lolawulo lokundwendwela, kunye nemali yesondlo ibekwe yijaji, ukuba isibini asivumelani.
Kwinkqubo yezomthetho yaseSpain Akuchazwanga ngokucacileyo ukuba umzali ogcina umntwana unembopheleleko yokwazisa umntu ongagciniyo kwimiba efanelekileyo enxulumene nabantwana babo abancinci. Izivumelwano zolawulo zenzelwe oko. Ukuba omnye wabazali, nokuba ngubani onelungelo lokugcina okanye akagcini, akasaphumeleli ukuthobela into ekuvunyelwene ngayo kwisivumelwano okanye kwisigwebo esimalunga nolawulo lokundwendwela kunye nelungelo lokufumana ulwazi, banokuya enkundleni ukunyanzelisa amalungelo abo .
Inani lomzali osondeleyo
Kuluntu lwanamhlanje kukho, de facto, the umzali womzali, leyo inento yokwenza nento esiyibiza ngokuba ziintsapho zendibano. Aba ngoomama okanye ootata abahlala neqabane elingenguye umzali womntwana, kodwa ngubani, hlala naye.
Kuxhomekeke kubudala apho umntwana aqala ukuhlala nalo "mlingane mtsha", ubudlelwane naye buya komelela kwaye bubaluleke njengalowo unomzali. Umsebenzi walo mzali usisalamane kukusebenzisana ukuba ngumzali nemfundo.
Unesakhono, ilungelo kunye noxanduva lwakho ube yinxalenye yemisebenzi yemihla ngemihla ngokunxulumene nokuqeqeshwa komntwana kubume bemeko yekhaya. Ikwanoxanduva lokwenza izigqibo kwiimeko ezingxamisekileyo.