Ibinzana elithi 'uhlala kube kanye' lihlala lisebenza ukuthethelela ukonwaba kwawo wonke umzuzu wobomi, ikwayisihloko somdlalo bhanyabhanya kunye nengoma. Kuyinyani, kodwa kunjalo nangakumbi ukuba ubomi buneentsuku, iiveki, iinyanga neminyaka eliqela (ngaphandle kokuzisola), kwaye ngamanye amaxesha sinethuba lokulungisa iimpazamo; sikwanayo ukuba sifunde ngokuqhubekekayo.
Kodwa uyazi? OMNYE UZALELWA NGAMNYE, kwaye yinto endiyiphindayo rhoqo iminyaka eli-11 nesiqingatha, xa ukuzalwa kwam kokuqala 'kubiwe' kum phantsi kothotho lweemigaqo (ezingeyomfuneko) zesibhedlele. Njengokuba oko kwakunganelanga, indlela esizalwa ngayo inokumisela ubomi bethu ngendlela ethile, kwaye kukho okungakumbi, kuba ukuba umntwana nonina bahlukene ngexesha iyure yokuqala emva kokuzalwa, iinkqubo zomzimba zendalo njengoko kufanelekile ziyaphazamiseka.
Kuninzi okubhaliweyo malunga noMichel Odent, kukho nabo babenethamsanqa lokumbona ngobuqu, kuba nge-85 uyaqhubeka nokusasaza ulwazi malunga ukuhanjiswa komzimba. Lelona binzana "Ukutshintsha umhlaba kufuneka utshintshe indlela ozalwe ngayo". UMnu Odent yingcali yokubelekisa yaseFrance, owaseka iZiko loPhando ngezeMpilo ePrimal; Uneencwadi ezingaphezulu kwe-10 kwityala lakhe, phakathi kwazo kukho "iCandelo leKesareya" okanye "Umntwana sisilwanyana esanyisayo."
Malunga neminyaka eli-13 eyadlulayo wapapasha inqaku elibiziweyo Iyure yokuqala emva kokuzalwa: sukumvusa uMama! ("Iyure yokuqala yobomi: shiya umama yedwa"). Ukubhalwa kuyaqhubeka ukuba ngumxholo opheleleyo, kungekuphela ngenxa yokuba iyaqhubeka nokukhankanywa ngamaxesha athile, kodwa kuba kusadingeka ukuba kukhunjulwe ukuba ukuzalwa kuluntu - okanye, njengoko esitsho, 'banamayeza' -; Ke ngoku usana nomama bayadingana, ngela xesha libalulekileyo nelinovakalelo ebomini bomntu. Kwaye oku, ukongeza ekubeni sisincomo esisiseko, bubungqina obuqinisekiswe yiNzululwazi.
Makungabikho mntu uphazamisa ukudalwa kobudlelwane phakathi kukamama nomntwana
Ukuzalwa kubaluleke kakhulu kusapho lonkeKuyinyani oku, nangona sihlala siwalibala amalungelo osana; Kwaye sisenokungayazi loo nto inyani ngokwayo iya kuthatha isigqibo kuphuhliso lwesakhono sothando. Uyabona, ioxytocin yincindi yedlala enento yokwenza nothando, omnye wemisebenzi yayo kukukhuthaza ukubambana kwesibeleko ngexesha lomsebenzi. Emva koko ifunxwa ngumgudu wokucola womntwana ngobisi lwebele, apho ikhoyo ngoku, eneneni amanqanaba ayo anyuka xa umama sele eza kuncancisa.
Makhe sibuyele emva kwelo xesha emva kokuzalwa komntwana, iNdalo inobulumko kangangokuba ucinga ngayo yonke into, kwaye yonke into iyakulungeleka ukuba akukho mntu wahlulayo abo bantu babini babethandana ngaphambi kokuba badibane. Ukuba akukho nongenelelo ngabasebenzi bezonyango KUFUNEKA, usana olusandula ukuzalwa kufuneka luhlale kunina, akukho sibonelelo ngokufuna ukutshintsha indlela yendalo yezinto. Akukho nto ibaluleke njengokuzivumela ukuba zidibane, kuba isidalwa esincinci sele sisesibelekweni ixesha elide, kwaye senzelwe ukuba sifune umzimba oza kusikhusela.
Akukho siphazamiso: usana olusandul 'ukuzalwa aludingi kuhlamba ngokupheleleyo (umzekelo); kodwa ikwangumama ocwangcisiweyo ukuba ayifumane kwangoko, kungenjalo kunokubakho iimeko zokuqhawuka kunxibelelwano ngokubhekisele emntwaneni, okanye kubenzima ekuphenduleni kwiimfuno zabo. Ayiloxesha laye nabani na ongomnye, kamva ewe, kodwa kwiyure yokuqala abo babini baya kuyazi indlela yokumelana, kwaye baya kwakha ubudlelwane obuyimfuneko. Ingcebiso iyasebenza nokuba kwenzeka ukuzalwa ngoqhaqho, usana lunokuba kunina ngoko nangoko emva kotyando, kwaye sele kukho amava amaninzi abonisa oku.
Kwaye ngoku usenokuzibuza Umama angaqiniseka njani ukuba akazukuhlukaniswa nosana lwakhe olusandul 'ukuzalwa? Into yokuqala kukufumanisa ngamathuba okwenyani onawo wokuhambisa kwakho, ngokukhawuleza ukuba ngcono, musa ukulinda de kube yiveki ye-35 yokukhulelwa. Ngaba unaso isibhedlele sabantwana esikufutshane? Ngaba uyazi ukuba yintoni a Isicwangciso sokuzalwa? Ngubani omele ubuze? Mininzi imibuzo kwaye akukho mpendulo, ngalo mzuzu. Njengoko uzazisa, uza kuyeka ukuziva unganqabisekanga, kwaye uyakuqonda ukuba unamandla okwenza izigqibo malunga nokukhulelwa kwakho kunye nokuzala kunokuba ucinga.
Ungathandabuzi, buza ugqirha wamazinyo okanye ugqirha wamazinyo omndwendwelayo ukuvavanya, buza izihlobo zakho, funda ukucela uluvo lwesibini, yenze icace kuwe ukuba umlinganiswa ophambili nguwe. Kukho umbelekisi oza kujonga ukukhulelwa, imibutho enje EPENUlwazi oluqinisekisiweyo onokufikelela kulo kwi-Intanethi, ukubanakho ukunxibelelana nedoula ukuze uhambisane neenkqubo, ...
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba sazi ngokubaluleka kweemfuno ezihlonitshwayo ngexesha lomsebenzi, kunye neeyure ezilandelayo.
Umfanekiso - Matteo bagnoli
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