Ivili loKuqonda kuLutsha: Isikhokelo esiGqibeleleyo, aManyathelo, kunye neeNzuzo

"Kubomi bethu bemihla ngemihla, amava okuqonda, into esiyiqaphelayo, kunye nohlobo lokuqonda kwethu, luzibonakalisa ngeendlela ezininzi ezahlukeneyo. sidibanisa Ngokujolisa ngokucwangcisiweyo ingqalelo yethu kumntu ngamnye ngaphakathi kolwazi lwethu, siphuhlisa imbono ehambelanayo ngathi. Yile nto ndiyithethayo xa ndithetha ngolwazi oluhlanganisiweyo.

Eli libinzana elikhutshelwe isenzi kwincwadi “Ukucinga ngengqondo (Amandla kunye nenjongo yoBuchotho boBuchule)”, ebhalwe ngunjingalwazi wengqondo yezonyango uDaniel J. Siegel. Andiyikhethanga nje, kodwa isebenza njengesiseko sokwazisa esinye sezixhobo 'zengqondo', ibinzana elaqanjwa ngumbhali elichaza amandla ethu okuqonda iingqondo zethu nezabanye. Ukuba siyakwazi ukuyiphuhlisa, sibuqonda ngcono ubomi bangaphakathi kwaye sikhuthaza ukuhlanganiswa kwengqondo. Konke oku kunokubonakala kunzima, kodwa kunenjongo ecacileyo: Isixhobo endithetha ngaso 'yiVili loLwazi'.

Umthambo we-WHELI usebenza ekuphononongeni ubomi bomntu bangaphakathi kunye inceda ukudibanisa ingqondo kwabakwishumi elivisayo; bubuchule obuvunywe ngoogxa bakaSiegel kwaye bunezicelo zonyango. Kodwa kwakhona ungayizama ekhaya, njengaxa bebancinci kwaye sibafundisa iindlela zokuphumla.

Ineziphumo ezilungileyo kwindlela ozilawula ngayo iimvakalelo zakho, kwaye Unceda ukuphuhlisa ingqondo ecacileyo. Ukulandela amanyathelo acetywayo kwincwadi (nantsi inguqulelo ekwi-intanethi, nangona ndincoma ukuyithenga), siya kuququzelela ukuhlola "ulwandle lwangaphakathi". Dibanisa ukuphefumla okulawulwayo kunye ne imbonakalo yezakhi ezenza inxalenye yevili ngokufuziselayo:

• Iimvakalelo ezintlanu.
• Ingqondo yesithandathu (umzimba).
• Ingqondo yesixhenxe (umsebenzi wengqondo).
• Ingqondo yesibhozo (ubudlelwane).

UDaniel J. Siegel uthi ngokudala ikhonkco phakathi kwazo zonke ezo nxalenye zomntu owaziyo, sidibanisa ingqondo, sinokuthomalalisa ixhala size siziqonde ngokucacileyo. Ndiyifumana iluncedo kakhulu Iintsapho ezinomdla ekukhuleni komntu, nakulutsha olukhe lubhideke maxa wambi. Andikwazi ukuya kwezinye iinkcukacha, kuba into ekufuneka uyenzile kukuphonononga le ncwadi ukuze uthathe isigqibo sokuba ungathanda na ukusebenzisa le okanye ezinye izixhobo ... okanye ukufunda okungakumbi malunga namantombazana kunye namakhwenkwe aloo minyaka.

Ukuba unabantwana abafikisayo, ndincoma ukufunda le ncwadi. Sisicatshulwa esinolwazi, kodwa asikho ngaphandle kobunzima baso, kodwa kufanelekile: U-Siegel uyayazi indlela yokuhambisa i-neurobiology, i-psychology kunye nengqondo kubantu abangenalwazi. Ukongeza kushwankathelo olufutshane kwimihlathi yokuqala, umbhali uneemfanelo ezininzi; kwelinye icala, umsebenzi wokuchaza ukukhula kwengqondo Kuyaxatyiswa, kuba ngokwenene lilungu elingaziwayo nangona libalulekile.

Ayisiyo nayiphi na incwadi malunga nokufikisa, ayibhalwanga ngohlobo loluhlu lweengcebiso. "I-Brain Storm" yaphula izikimu ngokukuxelela oko ukufikisa akulonqanaba elibi, ukuba ulutsha alunangxaki. Icacisa okwenzekayo ngaphakathi kubo, ukuze ubaqonde, kwaye izoba kumava akho. Utshintsho kwi-self-concept, ukuziphatha, kunye nobudlelwane ... Utshintsho oluhambelana nokufikisa lubangelwa ukudibanisa kwe-hormonal eyinkimbinkimbi, kodwa kwingqondo, yintoni ebalulekileyo yi-neurotransmitters. Yonke into iyatshintsha ukuzisa utshintsho ukusuka kumntwana ukuya kumntu omdala; akukho nto yenzeka ngamabona-ndenzile; ke ngoko, Iintsapho zimele zihlukane nekhethe ezenza sizikhusele nabantwana bethu; linyathelo lokuqala elo. Okwesibini kukubakhapha kolo hambo lunika umdla lukukufikisa.

Yintoni ivili loLwazi kwaye kutheni lisebenza ebusheni?

Isondo loKuqonda luqheliselo lokugxila kwingqwalasela eququzelela amava ibe a i-axis esembindini yokucaca (“imbindi” apho siqonda khona), a umsesane okanye umphetho (yonke into esinokuyiqaphela) kunye nokunye i radios (ingqwalasela edibanisa zombini). Ngokuhamba ngokucwangcisiweyo ngokusebenzisa izivamvo, umzimba, ingqondo kunye nobudlelwane, i indibaniselwano ethe tyaba (ulungelelwano phakathi kovakalelo kunye nesizathu) kunye ne ukuhlanganiswa ngokuthe nkqo (ukuzilawula ukusuka kwi-brainstem ukuya kwi-cortex). Kwabaselula, abangqondo yabo iphinda ihlengahlengiswe, lo mkhuba uphucula imisebenzi yesigqeba ezifana ingqwalasela, ukucamngca, uvelwano kunye nokulawulwa ngokweemvakalelo.

Isikhokelo esisebenzayo samanyathelo ngamanyathelo (silungiselelwe ikhaya, igumbi lokufundela okanye iofisi)

1. Ukulungiselela. Beka bucala imizuzu engama-20 ukuya kwengama-30 kwindawo ezolileyo. Unga rekhoda esakho isikhokelo okanye usebenzise izixhobo ze drdansiegel.com. Yamkela ukuma okuzinzile kunye nokukhululeka, umqolo wakho uthe tye kunye nesimo sengqondo sokufuna ukwazi.
2. Ziqhelanise nevili. Yiba nombono we centro njengendawo ozazi kuyo ukuba wazi, i umphetho njengayo yonke into enokuvela (imifanekiso, izandi, iingcinga, iimvakalelo) kunye i radios njengoqwalaselo oluhamba ukusuka embindini ukuya emphethweni nasemva.
3. Ukuphefumla kweankileYiva ukuphefumla kunye nokuphefumla ngamaza amaninzi. Vumela umoya ukuse kwelo ziko lokucaca. Emva koko bamba umfanekiso wevili ukuze uqhubeke nohambo ngokuzolileyo.
4. Icandelo lokuqala: izivamvo ezintlanu. Ukusuka embindini, yalathisa iradiyasi emphethweni ukuze uvule:
   • Ndlebe: Vumela izandi ezikhoyo zizalise ulwazi lwakho, ngaphandle kokugweba.
   • umbono: ubona ukukhanya emva kweenkophe okanye ngamehlo avulekileyo.
   • Ivumba: qaphela ngobuchule naliphi na ivumba okanye ukungabikho kwayo.
   • Ukutya: lungisa iincasa ezishiyekileyo emlonyeni.
   • Chukumisa: uva amanqaku okunxibelelana nempahla, isitulo, ulusu.

   Thatha umoya omncinci kwaye ukhulule eli candelo.

5. Icandelo lesibini: imvakalelo yesithandathu (umzimba). Yenza a ukuskena umzimba: ubuso, i-scalp, i-nape kunye namacala entloko; intamo kunye nomqala; amagxa; iingalo kwiincam zeminwe; umva ophezulu kunye nesifuba; umqolo ophantsi kunye nesisu; esinqeni; imilenze emaqatheni nasezinzwaneni. Ibandakanya i-pelvis kunye namalungu angasese, Las i-viscera (amathumbu, isisu), ingaphakathi le umqala, i imiphunga kunye nommandla we Intliziyo. Ekugqibeleni, igubungela i imvakalelo yomzimba wonke.
6. Icandelo lesithathu: ingqiqo yesixhenxe (ubomi bengqondo). Kwinxalenye yokuqala, hlala uvule ukubonakala kwe iingcinga, iinkumbulo, imifanekiso, iimvakalelo okanye iimpembelelo, ndibabukele befika bahamba. Kwinxalenye yesibini, uyaphanda ivela njani umxholo ngamnye (kancinci okanye ngequbuliso?, ukusuka kwenye indawo?), njani ihleli (izinzile okanye ziyangcangcazela?, ziqhubekile okanye ziphumle?) kwaye njani se va (ngequbuliso, yaphela, yathatyathelwa indawo yenye?). Qaphela i umgangatho wendawo phakathi kweziqulatho ezibini zengqondo.
7. Icandelo lesine: imvakalelo yesibhozo (ubudlelwane). Yandisa ingqiqo yoqhagamshelwano: abantu abasondeleyo kuwe kwigumbi; usapho kunye nabahlobo; abafundi ofunda nabo okanye oogxa; uluntu, isixeko, ingingqi, ilizwe, nelizwekazi; bonke abantu emhlabeni kwaye, emva koko, zonke izinto eziphilayo, izilwanyana nezityalo.
8. Injongo yovelwano (ububele bothando). Khawucinge ngokuthumela iminqweno ye impilo, ukhuseleko kunye nokuba sempilweni kubo bonke abantu kwaye, ekugqibeleni, kwisiqu sakho sangaphakathi. Vala ngokubuyela ekuphefumleni ngokuphefumlela ngakumbi ngenjongo kunye nokukhupha umoya.

Udliwano-ndlebe lweZowuni: Imibuzo ePhakamisa uLwazi kunye noLawulo lokuReactivity

Ukongeza kukucamngca okukhokelwayo, a udliwano-ndlebe olulungelelanisiweyo equka iindawo ezine zokuqwalaselwa, iluncedo kakhulu kulutsha olufikisayo ukusuka kwiminyaka eyi-12 (xa i Ukucinga okungabonakaliyo):

1. Chaza imeko. Chaza isiqendu samva nje, esikhethekileyo (kwenzeka ntoni, phi, nini) ukunika iankile ecacileyo.
2. Indawo yangaphandle (ibali elibonakalayo). Yenza kusebenze ihemisphere yasekhohlo: Yintoni eyabonwa/yive umjongi ongathathi hlangothi? Kwenzeka ntoni ngaphambi nasemva? Ngawaphi amagama athethiweyo?
3. Indawo yomzimba (i-interoception)Ngaba umzimba wawusebenza? Phi kwaye njani? Ngaba yayiyimpembelelo yokulwa, ukubaleka, ukukhenkceza, ukukhala, ukwandisa, okanye ukuphumla?
4. Uqwalaselo oluphambili. Ukusabela komzimba kwaba ngokulinganayo ukuba kwenzeka ntoni (inyoka) okanye ubaxiwe (isiporho)? Ngaba iyaphendula khona wa i-echoes zangaphambili engasonjululwanga? Ukuba iimpawu ziyavela, qwalasela inkxaso yonyango.
5. Indawo yangaphakathi (iimvakalelo, imifanekiso kunye neengcinga). Waziva njani? Yeyiphi imifanekiso eyavelayo? Ubucinga ntoni? Intoni inkuthazo eyakhayo ubukwinjongo zakho?
6. Indawo yobudlelwane (umjikelo)Uyichaze njani impendulo yakho? Ubuzama ukuzuza ntoni? Inokuba wavakalelwa njani omnye umntu? Ngaba uziva uxinezelekile okanye uqhagamshelwe ngakumbi? Ubungathanda ukuphendula njani?

Izibonelelo eziqinisekisiweyo kunye neengcebiso zokusetyenziswa

Xa uziqhelanisa rhoqo, iWheel of Consciousness:

• nzulu ingcinga kwaye inceda abantu bafumane izisombululo zilungele imingeni yabo yemihla ngemihla.
• Qalisa ukuhambelana phakathi kwezinto esizicingayo, esizivayo nesizenzayo, sinciphisa ukungxama kunye nokuphinda sisebenze.
• Yomeleza umsebenzi wesigqeba: ingqwalasela ezinzileyo, ukucamngca, uvelwano kunye nokuzilawula ngokweemvakalelo.
• Iyanyusa iimodeli zangaphakathi ezikhuseleke ngakumbi, ngokuphucula isimo sengqondo sikabani nesabanye.

Yindlela ilula kwaye ikhuselekile Xa ikhatshwa ngovelwano, iluncedo kuzo zombini iingcali kunye nabazali. Ingenziwa ekhaya, kwigumbi lokufundela, okanye kwigumbi lokubonisana, isoloko ihlonipha inkululeko yomntwana ofikisayo kunye nesingqisho sabo. Ukomeleza iziphumo: seta iishedyuli eziqhelekileyo, qala ngeendlela ezimfutshane, lungisa ukubhadula kwengqondo, kwaye ngobunono ubuyele embindini.

Isixhobo esongezelelweyo: "Ivili loBomi"

Njengomthombo wokuzihlalutya, "Ivili loBomi" kwintsimi yokuqeqesha inika a imbono ecacileyo yolungelelwaniso lobomiIsangqa senziwa sahlulwe kwiindawo eziphambili (umzekelo: impilo, uqoqosho, izifundo / umsebenzi, ukuzonwabisa, iqabane, uphuhliso lomntu, intsapho kunye nabahlobo), indawo nganye inikwe amanqaku ukusuka kwi-1 ukuya kwi-10 ngokokwaneliseka, qhagamshela amachaphaza ukujonga iprofayile yakho kwaye ukhethe apho uqala khona ukuphucula. Iinzuzo zayo ziquka: ukucaca ngakumbi malunga nezinto eziphambili, izigqibo zotshintsho, inkuthazo, ukujonga inkqubela, kunye nokusetyenziswa kwiimeko zobuqu, zesikolo, okanye zomsebenzi. Oku kuguquguqukayo kuhambelana kakuhle nevili lokuZiqonda: eyokuqala ibonisa into ekufuneka kusetyenzwe ngayo neyesibini qeqesha indlela yokuzilawula ngelixa usebenza kuyo.

Ukuziqhelanisa nokuziqhelanisa kwezi zixhobo kunceda abaninzi abafikisayo kunye neentsapho ukuba badlule kweli nqanaba libalulekileyo ngokuzola kunye nenjongo, ukomeleza. Ubume, i ikhonkco kunye nemvakalelo ye ingqiqo kubomi bemihla ngemihla.