Enye yemigaqo esisiseko ye phuhliso kufuneka ivumele abantwana bakhethe phakathi kwemisebenzi eyahlukeneyo esekelwe kwizinto abazithandayo. Kwaye ukukhetha kubalulekile kubo, kwaye ukubavumela ukuba benze njalo ngokukhululekileyo kubanceda bakhule. Khumbula ukuba abantwana ngabantu abakhethekileyo abanesimilo, isimilo, iimvakalelo, izinto abazithandayo namaphupha. Ukukhuthaza ukuzimela kukhokelela kukuzimela kunye nokuzimela.
Abazali banokubonelela mathuba kubantwana bethu ngenxa yakhoizigqibo omar y ukuthatha uxanduva kuba zincinci. Bafundise ukuba emva koko bathathe inyathelo emva, bavumele ukuba baphonononge, benze iimpazamo kwaye bafunde kwiimpazamo zabo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, khumbula ukuba ukukhuthaza ukuzimela kufuna umonde omkhulu, ngoko ke kuyimfuneko ukucwangcisa kwaye uguquguquke kakhulu.
Iingcebiso zokuvuselela nokukhuthaza ukuzimela kwabantwana
#1 - Ukuthembela ngundoqo
Ukuzimela kungaphezulu kunokukhula, kubandakanya ukuzithemba ekwenzeni izinto ezithile kunye nokuzimela, kunye nokukwazi ukwenza kunye nokuzicingela. Ngokuzimela, kwaye ke ngoko ukuzimela ngakumbi kubazali bakhe, umntwana ngaloo ndlela uhlakulela ukuzithemba kwakhe ngokudala ubomi obucebileyo nobuzinzileyo bangaphakathi obuya kumnceda athintele isithukuthezi kwaye alahle ukuxhomekeka kwakhe kwabanye.
Ngokunceda abantwana bethu baphuhlise ukuzimela, abazali babonisa ukuba bayamthemba umntwana wabo, kwaye bayazingca ngempumelelo yabo. Oku kuthetha ukumvumela ukuba asebenzise inkululeko yakhe ngoxa emkhusela. Ngale ngqiqo, abazali badla ngokutyekela ekwenzeni izinto ngenjongo yokunceda abantwana bethu, ukukhawulezisa izinto, okanye kuba sicinga ukuba umntwana wethu akayi kukwazi ukuwugqiba umsebenzi eyedwa. Emazantsi ezantsi, inyaniso kukuba singxamile kwaye/okanye asinamonde. Kuyo nayiphi na imeko, kude nokunceda umntwana, into eyenziwa yile kukumhlutha amathuba okufunda nokukhula.
#2 - Abantwana kufuneka babe nenkqubo yabo
Nika umntwana wakho imisebenzi emincinci anokuyenza yedwa ntsasa nganye. Ukususela emncinci kakhulu, bayakwazi ukwenza ngaphakathi kwiinkqubo ezincinci kwaye bazenzele ngokwabo ngaphandle komvuzo okanye isohlwayo. Ukuphakamisa izinto zabo, ukuxubha amazinyo, ukunxiba, ukunxiba izihlangu zabo, ukunxiba idyasi okanye ukuqhobosha amaqhosha kusana lwabo okanye ukwandlula ibhedi yeminye yemisebenzi enokwenziwa ngabantwana. Kwabanye kuya kufuneka ulinde kancinci, kodwa abanye bangaqala ukuzenza ukusuka kwiminyaka emibini. Le misebenzi kufuneka iboniswe njengophawu lokuthembela kunye nelungelo, kwaye kungekhona njengesibophelelo esinyanzeliswayo.
#3 - Myeke azenzele izinto
Kubalulekile ukudibanisa oku kulandelayo kuluhlu lwamabinzana esiwathetha kubantwana yonke imihla: Ungayenza ngokwakho. Abantwana bacela uncedo kwizinto ezininzi, kwaye ezininzi bayakwazi ukuzenza bodwa kwaye abanye baya kuba nzima ukuzenza. Kwimeko nayiphi na into, kubalulekile ukuba bazame, ukuba bayenze kwaye, ngaphezu kwayo yonke, bazive bekwazi ukuyenza. Ukuba ngalo lonke ixesha besicela uncedo lokwenza iphazili, baqhoboshele ihempe yabo okanye bazobe umzobo siye sibenzele yona, asibancedisi ukuba bayenze, siququzelela impumelelo yesiphumo sokugqibela ngokungahoyi inyani. ukuba abantwana abakhange bayenze kwaye ibenza baxhomekeke ngakumbi kwaye bangakhuselekanga.
#4 -Mnike izinto zakhe zokucoca
Ukukhuthaza unyana wethu ukuba athathe inxaxheba kwimisebenzi yasekhaya, kubangel’ umdla kakhulu ukuzithengela izinto zakhe zokucoca, ezincinane ngobukhulu okanye uhlobo lokudlala. Kancinci kancinci uya kuqhela ukunceda kunye nokuthatha uxanduva. Ukongeza, kuya kuba mnandi kakhulu kuwe kwaye uya kuyithatha ngokuqinisekileyo. Ukongeza, kancinci kancinci uya kuba noxanduva lokuthatha kunye nokubeka indawo yakho.
#5 - Relax xa ujongene nentlekele
Abantwana abafunda ukwenza izinto bebodwa kunokukhokelela kwiimeko ezicinezelayo, kungekuphela nje ngenxa yokulinda nokuphindaphinda, kodwa nangenxa yokuba ukufunda ukwenza ezinye izinto kubenza bangcoliseke kakhulu. Relax kwaye uthathe lula. Kuyimfuneko kwaye kuqhelekile.
#6 - Cebisa imingeni emitsha kumntwana
Imingeni inceda umntwana ukuba ahlole izinto ezintsha ezinokwenzeka kwaye anqobe imida. Ngaphezu koko, imingeni imnandi. Ewe, kubalulekile ukucebisa imiceli mngeni onokuyoyisa, nokuba ixabisa umgudu. Nangona kubalulekile ukufunda ukukunyamezela ukuphoxeka, le nto sithetha ngayo ngoku yeyokuba umntwana angcamle impumelelo njengomvuzo womgudu.
#7 - Mkhuthaze kwiingcamango zakhe
Zama ukuba ungaphazamisi impembelelo yomntwana wakho okanye uzichase ngokucwangcisiweyo iingcamango zakhe. Kungenjalo, usenokuba mathidala ukuthatha amanyathelo. Khuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba athathe umngcipheko omncinci, azame izinto ezintsha, okanye atshintshe izicwangciso. Ungumkhokeli wabo wempumelelo. Iimpazamo kufuneka zijongwe njengezifundo zobomi okanye njengemingeni emitsha ekufuneka yoyiswe.
#8 - Mfundise ukuthatha uxanduva
Kungenxa yokuba umntwana emncinci akuthethi ukuba abanakuthatha uxanduva lwezenzo ezithile.
Ukuba unqwenela, unokufaka isandla kwiimbono ezininzi zokukhuthaza ukuzimela kwabantwana kwizimvo.