Ukholelwa ngokwenene ukuba kubaluleke kakhulu ukubhiyozela i-1. Unyaka wosana lwakho? Kwabaninzi sisiganeko esihle kwaye amalungiselelo abuyela emva kwiinyanga, benza yonke into ngononophelo olukhulu kwaye bakuphephe ukulibala naziphi na iinkcukacha kuMthendeleko oMkhulu.
Nanku ke umbuzo, Siyabhiyozela umntwana, okanye abazali kunye nosapho? Kuba amaxesha amaninzi kwaye phantse rhoqo, inkwenkwe yokuzalwa okanye umbhiyozeli akafumani malunga nepati, kubo lusuku nje olunengxolo, isiphithiphithi, kwaye ukuba uqhele ukuhlala eluxolweni kwaye ethule, uya kuthi Chitha lonke itheko ulila, wenzela imbeko yakhe, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ulele. Ngaba kufanelekile ukuchitha inkcitho eninzi, ixesha kunye nokuzincama kwabanye abazali, ukwenza itheko lokuzukisa umntu othile, ongekabinakho ukwamkela irhafu yakhe kwaye, ngokuchaseneyo, akanakubona ixesha eliphela kwaye aphume indlu?
Oomama abaninzi baya kucinga ukuba ewe, inkumbulo iya kuhlala ikho xa usana lukhula, kodwa oku kwaphula nayiphi na indlela malunga nokubhiyozela amatheko okuzalwa, kuba siyazi kakuhle ukuba ayenzela ukuba imbeko izive ilungile kwaye ngaphezulu kwayo yonke into ukuze "ukuzonwabisa".
Namhlanje baninzi abazali abasenayo inkohliso yokubhiyozela unyaka wokuqala wosana, kwaye bayiphosa indlu ngefestile, kwaye ke bosulele usapho lonke; Nangona kunjalo, kukho abanye abazali abakhetha ukuchitha olo suku besabelana nje ngamazibulo abo, behamba naye, besiya kwilizwe, ulwandle, okanye kwiindawo apho aziva ekhululeke kakhulu, emva kwemini yokukhwela, okanye nayiphi na indawo apho umntwana angaziva ekhululekile ukwabelana nabazali bakhe ngaloo mini.
Uninzi lwabazali kule mihla bajonga umbhiyozo ulumke ngakumbi kubantwana babo ukusukela kwiminyaka yesi-5, kulapho ke banesona sizathu sikhulu kunye nokwazi malunga nokuba yintoni itheko lomhla wokuzalwa, kwaye bazizidwangube, kwaye ngenxa yoko olo suku kufuneka lubaluleke kakhulu. Baqesha imidlalo, imilingo, oonopopi, abahlekisi, abenza ukuba inkwenkwe yokuzalwa izive ngathi inye kwaye banokwazi ukuba yonke into yenzelwe yena kunye naye, kwaye imenza azive ngathi…. UKUMKANI WEQELA ... Ucinga ntoni?
Ngokwam, ndicinga ukuba umntwana akanako ukonwabela ukubhiyozela usuku lokuzalwa kwakhe, ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kubakhwankqisa, badinwe kwaye bacaphukiswe kukubona abantu abaninzi behlangene, ingxolo engaka kwaye bejikeleza. Nangona kunjalo, ngamava, ndicinga ukuba ungaba nepati yabantwana, kutheni ungayenzi? Amalungiselelo, nokuba kulula kangakanani na, afaka abazali inkohliso efanayo naleyo banayo ngexesha lamalungiselelo enziwa ngelixa belinde usana. Ngokuqinisekileyo, abo baya kulonwabela itheko baya kuba ziindwendwe, kwaye ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo abazali baya kuziva bonelisekile, mhlawumbi bazingce kakhulu, kodwa eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu iya kuhlala ilulonwabo oluza kusongamela, ngalo lonke ixesha abantwana bethu befikelela enye unyaka wobomi. Ekhaya besibhiyozela unyaka wokuqala wonyana wethu, ibingoyena ubalaseleyo!… Kodwa ukuza kuthi ga ngoku umqolo wam ububuhlungu hahahahaha
Kuyinyani ukuba iintsana ezinonyaka ubudala azazi ukuba kwenzeka ntoni ngeenxa zonke kulo msitho ubaluleke kangaka. Ngaphandle koku, ndicinga ukuba i-toast yomhla wokuzalwa ilungile kuba ingumbhiyozo wokuqala wobomi bokuba sikhetheke kangaka ukubhiyozelwa ngembeko.
Into ebalulekileyo kukuba nokwamkelwa apho usana luziva lukhululekile kwaye luzolile, indawo apho lwenzelwe khona umsitho kunye nezizathu ezininzi ezenza ukuba umntwana afune ukwazi. Umculo akufuneki ungxole kakhulu njengoko oko kunokukuphazamisa. Kodwa ngoopopayi abalungileyo bamahlaya okanye iiharlequins kuya kuba mnandi kakhulu.
Umntwana wam sele eza kuguqula usuku lwakhe lokuzalwa lokuqala kwaye yimbutho encinci ebesiyicwangcisile, apho abazala bakhe kunye nabahlobo bakhe bazokuzimasa ukuze bamnike eyona mbeko ilindelwe kakhulu ngabo bonke.
Ngomdla omkhulu siwucwangcisile lo msitho kunye nexesha elininzi elibandakanyekayo, iindleko ziziva zincinci xa uhlukanisa izinto kunye nexesha kunye nokwabelana ngeendleko ngezavenge zenyanga. Ndicinga ukuba eyona nto ibalulekileyo ngumbutho.
Ngolo suku lukhulu ndiza kuba nenkxaso yamalungu osapho ukusasaza amashwamshwam, ukutya, iilekese, iisoda, phakathi kwabanye; njengokukhathalela umntwana.
Okwangoku sonke sonwabile kwaye sikhohlisa ukuba yonke into ibalulekile ngalo mhla umhle.
Ndivumelana nazo zonke! Kodwa ngenye imini bendisenza imibuzo yokubhiyozela usuku lokuzalwa kwentombi yam, eza kwenzeka kungekudala, kwaye, khange ndikhathazeke kuba andazi ukuba ndiyenzela ukukholisa abantu okanye ukukholisa intombi yam encinci. Njengoko andizukuza nabasekeli okanye abenzi bemilingo okanye bezolonwabo, ndiza kudlala umculo womculo kunye neevidiyo zabanye abantwana !!! Ndiyoyika into yokuba omnye umntwana engakuthandi ukudibana kwaye athi: MAMA, MASIHAMBE ELI PATI LIYABODA… Yimbhiyozo nje encinci kwaye ayikuko ukuba ndingachitha kakhulu kuyo. Enkosi ngayo yonke into ethethwa kweli phepha.
NDIYAVUMELA, NGENKQUBO ESENZELEKILEYO EKUFUNEKA YENZISWE ABANTWANA BAKHO UKUBA BAZISETYENZISE UKUFAKA IIMALI KWIMFUNDO YABO NGOKUGQIBELA IIMPAWU ZABO KANYE NENYANISO YOKUBA SIZALELA UKUZE IINDWENDWE ZANELISWE KUNYE NOKUFUMANEKA KUNGAFUMANEKI.
Ndicinga ukuba ngokufanayo uLuana Do Santo, loo mibutho yeyabantu abadala hayi eyomntwana, ndinengxaki efanayo, kodwa andizukuya ethekweni, kungcono ndimthathe andonwabele apho ndazi khona ukuba uyakuva kwaye Ndonwabile, andinamdla kwinto abantu abayicingayo.
Akukho nto ithi hayi nokuba abantwana abakholelwa ukuba bayayiqonda into eyenzekayo kwindawo ebangqongileyo.Itheko elincinci, nokuba lincinci kangakanani, elifuna inkcitho kodwa into oyenzayo ngunyaka wabo wokuqala wobomi. usana ndiya kuba novuyo lokukuxelela Ukuba ubhiyozela usuku lwakho lokuzalwa, kuyavuya xa abazali besixelela ukuba babhiyozela unyaka wethu.
Mna, ukuba ndifuna itheko likaFabiana, lusuku lwakhe lokuqala lokuzalwa. Abazange bandibhiyozele nantoni na, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba azonwabise, nokuba azenzele abahlobo, nokuba ngaba uya esidlekeni, ziiyure nje ezimbalwa, ukuba umboniso uhlala ixesha elingakanani, uyinkwenkwezi, nokuba kukho amakhwenkwe namantombazana. Kukwabelana phakathi kwabahlobo kunye namantombazana. Kutheni ungayibhiyozeli? Ewe ndiyabelana ukuba akufuneki uchithe imali eninzi, kodwa ngaphakathi kokunokwenzeka.
Nantsi ipolisi yam yonyango!
Ewe, ndicinga ukuba usuku lokuqala lokuzalwa komntwana kufuneka lube yinto elula kakhulu, alungiselele into ekhethekileyo ukuba ayitye, amnike into yokudlala emnandi nenomdla ayithandayo, amse kumyezo wezilwanyana okanye kwipaki yolonwabo kwaye abonise lonke uthando analo kuye \ yena. Kwaye ukuze abazali bonwabele loo mini, ngongcwalazi, banike i-champagne kusapho lwabo oluhle kunye nosana oluhle abanalo, kwaye babe nobusuku obuthandana kakhulu 😀 ukuba kunokwenzeka ... Kwaye usapho kunye nabahlobo bonke, bameme usuku lokusela into kwaye utye into elula kakhulu kodwa emnandi, ukubona omncinci kwaye umnike isipho. Ndicinga ukuba lo ingangumhla wokuzalwa ofanelekileyo kuwo nawuphi na unyaka ubudala. Mhlawumbi akayikukhumbula nto, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuziva ulungile hayi yena kuphela, kodwa nosapho lonke. Aaa kwaye ndiyalibala…. Thatha iifoto ezininzi zamaxesha amnandi 🙂
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