Kule mihla sifundile ukuba iNkundla yePhondo yaseValencia ithathe isigqibo sokurhoxisa ukurhoxiswa kwetyala eligciniweyo. Yonke le nto iqale ngesikhalazo sabanye abazali sokuphathwa gadalala kusana lwabo oluneminyaka emibini ubudala ukuba lwabandezeleka kwisikolo sabantwana abancinci kweso sixeko. Njengoko unokuthelekelela, kubekho isiphithiphithi, kwaye kwavela impikiswano enkulu. Umntwana yayingenguye yedwa owaphathwa gadalala ngamandla ngabagcini babantwana, njengoko bohlwaywa abaliqela ukuma okanye ukuhlala wedwa kwigumbi lokufundela elimnyama nelitshixiweyo (into eyoyikisayo, yiza…).
Iintsapho zithembele kuqala kubungcali bokufundisa abagcina amantombazana kunye namakhwenkwe ngokwamanqanaba awo emfundo; Ndingathanda ukuba ukongeza ekubeni uqeqeshelwe ukufundisa nokunyamekela iintsana, abantwana kunye nabantu abafikisayo, babenako ukukhathalela izinto ezintsonkothileyo nezinovakalelo olukhulu ukuba njengokuba bekhula babonisa iimfuno ezahlukeneyo zengqondo, zentlalo, zomzimba kunye nezenkcubeko.
Nditsho ngoba (ngoku andibhekiseli kumcimbi othile osele usondele) Ndazi ngaphezulu kwetyala elinye apho kuye kwafuneka ndizibuze ukuba "wazi ntoni lo mntu malunga nengqondo yomntwana?" Kuhlala kusithiwa ukwenza le misebenzi kufuna inkuthazo enkulu, kodwa kunye nozinzo oluninzi kunye "nokwazi ukuba", kuba ukhuselo olucetywayo lunokujika ngokulula lube ngumonakalo ngokwasemoyeni kubafundi.
Ukungena kwesihloko, ndiyakuqinisekisa ukuba Ukuvalela umntwana (iminyaka emi-2, 8 okanye eli-12) kwindawo emnyama, kwaye ukuyenza njengesohlwayo kuyathoba kakhulu, kodwa kukwayinto yokungakhathali kuba kuyityeshela ingqwalaselo yesidingo esisiseko. Esi sidingo sinokuthi siqwalasele iimvakalelo: ezo ndlela zenzekelayo esizisebenzisayo ukuphendula inkuthazo yangaphandle.
Kwaye njengoko ingqalelo (masingathi ulawulo) lweemvakalelo yenye yezona zilityelweyo kakhulu kwezemfundo, ndingacebisa ukuba sizibone njengamanyano, nkqu nakwiimeko apho umntwana, ngokobudala, ephantsi koxinzelelo, okanye Nokuba siyintoni na isizathu, akakwazi ukunika iimpendulo ezaneleyo. Ngokoluvo lwam, kulapho ixabiso leengcali kwezemfundo liyakubonwa khona, ngubani-ukongeza-umntu omdala, ke ngoko uyakwazi ukuqonda abafundi babo.
Ukohlwaya ngokuzivalela?
Wowu, imfundo yengcinezelo efunyenwe ngabantu abadala iminyaka isafanelekile, kwaye imbi kakhulu!, yimikhosi engabantu Thembela kwisohlwayo (kubandakanywa nomzimba) njengendlela yokufunda, xa ingekho. Kufuneka nje ufunde amanye amagqabantshintshi kuphononongo lweendaba: kukho abo baziphikayo iinyani ("abatshana bam baye apho, akunakwenzeka into enjalo ukuba yenzeke"), ophonsa oko "ngempama ngexesha eyona iwaneleyo, bandinike yona kwaye akukho nto yenzekileyo kum ”(ahem ... Ngaba ukuthethelela ubundlobongela akuthethi ukuba ukohlwaywa emzimbeni kushiye uphawu?), njl
Okomzuzwana, uluntu luphela, okwangoku akayazi ifuthe lokuphathwa gadalala kwalo naluphi na uhlobo kubomi babantwana: kubomi bangoku nakwikamva. Njengomzekelo ndiza kukuxelela ukuba, phakathi kwezinye iziphumo, yintoni eyaziwayo njenge-hypothesis yokuzala kwakhona yoxhatshazo inokwenzeka, malunga nokuba kusekho ingxoxo eninzi, nangona uGreen (ngo-1998) eyiqinisekisile. Ngamanye amagama, umntwana ophethe gadalala uphatha kakubi abanye abantu kule minyaka idlulileyo, kwaye eso iya kuba sisizathu esinyanzelekileyo sokuba siqwalasele utshintsho olunzulu kubudlelwane nabantwana abancinci. Kodwa kunjalo ukubakho koxinzelelo olunetyhefu, kunye nezinye iziphumo esingazukujongana nazo ngoku.
Ndihlala ndicebisa ukuba ukuba ingqiqo iyasilela kwaye siphulukane nembono yokwenyani yokukhusela abantwana, masicinge isenzo esinokuba yingozi emntwaneni, ngokungathi siza kwenziwa emntwini omdala. Kuni undifundayo, cinga ngoku kulandelayo, "NgoMvulo umphathi wakho uyakucaphukisa kuba uthetha kakhulu kwaye uyabacaphukisa oogxa bakho, emva koko akuthathe aye kwigumbi elimnyama akushiye apho kangangeyure", yintoni a ukuthotywa! Injani yona ingqumbo! yinyaniso? Kumntwana, umntwana kule meko! Kubi kakhulu, phakathi kwezinye izinto kuba iyabathemba abo bayikhathaleleyo, kwaye ayinangcinga yexesha njengawe. Ungathini ukuba iyintoni imizuzu engama-30 yakho kulomntwana ebeneeyure ezi-2? Phew!
Ubundlobongela bubangela ukubandezeleka okukhulu, kwaye ukuxhatshazwa bubundlobongela
Sisafundisa ngoloyiko
Sifuna ukuba iincwadi zitshabalale kwaye abantwana bethu bafunde ngeeprojekthi, sifuna izixhobo ezingaphezulu ze-ICT kumagumbi okufundela, sifuna inkqubo yale mihla kwinqanaba lamanye amazwe, kwaye ngaphezulu kwako konke kwinqanaba leemfuno zabanye abafundi abaza kukhuphisana kwelinye. imarike yomsebenzi esizifumanele kuyo.
Kwaye sijonge phambili kulo lonke olo tshintsho luhle ... Siyalibala ukuba SISAFUNDISA sisoyika (abazali nootitshala) besazi okanye bengazi; Kwaye ke, uloyiko luchasene nothando, olufunwa kakhulu ngamantombazana kunye namakhwenkwe. Kuyimfuneko ukuba sigxile kwinjongo yokuphelisa uloyiko, kuba (kwaye uValeria uzakuthetha malunga noku kungekudala) ngumlingani omkhulu wokungancedi okufundileyo, okuthintela isenzo kunye nokwandisa kakhulu ukuba semngciphekweni kwengqondo komncinci. Awuyifuni loo nto yabantwana bakho, andithi?
Ndizichasile iinkqubo zesohlwayo kunye nembuyekezo nakoluphi na ulwalamano kwezemfundo, kodwa ukohlwaya ebusweni kodonga okanye ukuzivalela ... yiyo loo nto, kunzima kangakanani ukwazi ukuba iziganeko ezifanayo zenzeka kwihlabathi liphela. Nabani na ohlwayayo akazithembi kangako kwisakhono sakhe, kodwa ikwabangela ukuba umntwana ayeke ukumthemba. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba silawule okanye silawule abantwana ukuze sihlalisane nabo.
Ilungelo labazali lokuxela.
Kuwo nawuphina umama, nakuwuphi na utata, owaziyo ukuba umntwana wakhe ukhathazwa okanye uxhatshazwa ngutitshala, ophethwe gadalala ngamandla, kulungile! Akunyanzelekanga ukuba siyonakalise, kodwa abantwana yeyona nto siyithandayo! Njengoko ndifundile, igqwetha leziko lemfundo liyabuphika ubungqina, nokuba owayesakuba ngumfundi kwisikolo sabantwana abancinci, waqinisekisa ngelo xesha ukukrokrelwa kwabazali. Kwaye ngendlela, ndithetha malunga 'nokusetyenziswa gwenxa kwamandla endikuthethileyo', UMel usixelela ngakumbi ngaye kule posi yebhlog..
Iingxelo zengqondo zokuba akukho mntwana makaphumeze kutyhile oko kubudala bakhe angakwaziyo ukukuchaza ngamagama, nangona (mhlawumbi) notshintsho olubonakalayo ekuziphatheni. Lixesha lokuba abazali bazithathele ingqalelo ezi zinto, kwaye masiyikhusele inzala yethu, kuba imicimbi efana nale sithetha ngayo ayizukwenzeka kuzo zonke iindawo (ndiyathemba), kodwa lilungelo lokufuna uxanduva.
Kwaye kwangaxeshanye, ndicinga ukuba lilungelo labantwana abancinci ukuba abanonopheli babo babazi ukuba babakhathalele njani xa belila, bengaziva bengonwabanga, belusizi ... Umzekelo, ayenzi ngqondo ingathi kwiminyaka emi-2 ngomlingo bathatha isiqaqa kwaye wonke umntu ngeyure enye. Kufuneka kubekho izisombululo ezilungele wonke umntu, kwaye kule "wonke umntu" ndikwabandakanya abafundi.
Ndiyakholelwa ukuba i-kindergarten, i-nursery kunye nesikolo saseprayimari, isikolo esisekondari, kufuneka samkele kwaye sikhusele indawo zabafundi babo. Yintoni abaya kuyo ukuze bafunde? Ewe kunjalo, kodwa ngaphezulu kwayo yonke into baya kuphuhla babe ngabantu, kwaye luhlobo luni lomntu onokuthi umntu abe ngumntu othobekileyo okanye othukileyo?
Ndifuna ukuncediswa ngutata oyintombazana amvalela kwigumbi lokuhlambela kwaye
hamba ebumnyameni
Ndincedeni, kungaphelanga nenyanga unyana wam ona3 ebesilwa nabazala bakhe kwaye njengesohlwayo ndimvalele egumbini elimnyama, bekusebusuku. Ngoku woyika yonke into, akafuni ukuba yedwa emini, kwaye akafuni kutya, wehlile kakhulu. Nceda ndenze ntoni ukukunceda woyise uloyiko? Ndiyaxolisa ngesimo sam sengqondo
Umzukulwana wam oneminyaka emihlanu ubudala uthathe iiseshoni ezimbalwa ezinzima, abazali bakhe (intombi yam kunye nomkhwenyana wam) bamvalela njengesohlwayo, ndifuna ingxabano yobungcali yokubathintela ukuba bangayenzi, enkosi
Umlingane wam wangaphambili kwaye sinentombi eneminyaka eyi-8 xa sohlukana intombi yam yayineminyaka emi-5 kuphela, njengesohlwayo ukuba akaziphathanga kakuhle ndazivalela egumbini ndacima isibane kwaye umnyango uvaliwe, intombi yam iqale ngoku ukundixelela izinto ezithile, kwaye andazi ukuba ndenzeni. Ungandinceda nceda.