Ndizele nje kwaye ndiziva ndibuhlungu. Kwenzeka ntoni kum?
Ukuhanjiswa kuyaphela, sinonyana okanye intombi yethu ezandleni zethu, yonke into iphume i-odolo kwaye ijikeleze wonke umntu wonwabile kwaye ubona kuphela izizathu zokubhiyozela. Nangona kunjalo, asicacanga kangako ngayo. Sidiniwe, sidiniwe, siziva sinosizi kwaye akukho mntu uyiqondayo into eyenzekayo kuthi. Kodwa ngaba iqhelekile? Le nto yenzekayo kuthi ineengcaciso ezininzi.
Emva kokuzalwa komntwana, ixesha lokutshintsha kunye nokufunda liqala. Lixesha eliyimfuneko lokwazi, ukuziqhelanisa, nokufunda indlela yokunyamekela usana lwethu. Lixesha lotshintsho kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi. Lixesha elibuthathaka, ixesha loku ukungazinzi ngokweemvakalelo kunye nobuthathaka bomzimba apho uloyiko lubonakala khona, ukungaqiniseki kunye namathandabuzo ezinxulumene nokukhathalelwa kwabantwana, malunga nezakhono zethu zobuzali… Kufuneka sizinike ixesha lokwazana kwaye siziqhelanise notshintsho losapho esisandul' ukuba nalo. Kwaye kufuneka siqonde ukuba a utshintsho kwimodeli yosapho Uxinezeleko ngokwaneleyo nakweyiphi na imeko, bekungenjalo njani xa simamkela umntwana wethu osidinga ngayo yonke into?!
Kwelinye icala, kude kube ngoku besiva usana ngaphakathi kuthi, sinxibelelana naye ngeentshukumo zakhe, simphulula eluswini, sithetha naye, simculela… Sikukhumbula kakhulukangangokuba ngamanye amaxesha imvakalelo ye ilahleko Kunzima kangangokuba sisenokukufumanisa kunzima ukumbona umntwana wethu kusana esiluphethe ezingalweni zethu.
Ngamanye amaxesha neyethu okulindelweyo Azinakwenzeka kakhulu, kwaye siphupha ngokuzalwa ngokugqibeleleyo kunye nosana olufanelekileyo, kodwa ukuzalwa kusenokuba akuzange kugqibelele kangako, kwaye sinokuba nobunzima ekumqondeni umntwana. lungelelanisa kumntu omtsha oxhomekeke kuyo yonke into yethu, oneemfuno ezimisela umda kubomi bethu kwaye aphawule usuku lwethu lwanamhlanje.
Kananjalo asinakulibala ukuba sidlule ekukhulelweni nasekubelekeni, sidiniwe kwaye siya kuba nako ngokuqinisekileyo i-anemiaNgoko kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukungabi namandla amaninzi.
I-postpartum blues okanye iblues yokubeleka: yintoni kwaye ihlala ixesha elingakanani
La emva kokubeleka blues (ekwabizwa ngokuba umntwana blues okanye maternity bluesOku kuqheleke kakhulu kwiintsuku ezimbalwa zokuqala emva kokuzalwa. Ngokuqhelekileyo kubonakala ngeenxa zonke usuku lwesibini okanye lwesithathu kwaye inokuhlala iintsuku ezimbalwa ukuya kwiiveki ezimbiniNgeli xesha kuqhelekile ukuqaphela ukutshintsha kwemo, umnqweno wokulila, ukuxhalaba kancinci, ukucaphuka, ubunzima bokulala kunye nokuziva ukhululekile.
Olu tshintsho lubangelwa yindibaniselwano ye iihomoni ngokuncipha ngokukhawuleza, ukudinwa komzimba yokukhulelwa kunye nokuzala, kunye ulungelelaniso kwindima entsha kunye noxanduva olunzulu. Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kwi-baby blues kukuba Isombulula ngokuzenzekelayo kwaye ayikutshintshi ngokubalulekileyo ukuzithemba okanye ukukwazi ukonwabela imizuzwana emincinci.
Ngezi ntsuku kunokuziva kungaqhelekanga ukuba ungaziva unxibelelwano olukhawulezileyo nosana. Oku kukwangaphakathi kwendawo elindelekileyo: iqhina liyakhiwa ngoqhagamshelwano, ixesha, kunye nokhathalelo lwemihla ngemihla.
Umahluko phakathi kwe-postpartum blues kunye noxinzelelo lwasemva kokubeleka
Kubalulekile Ukwahlula i-blues yomntwana kwi-postpartum depressionebukhali ngakumbi kwaye ihlala ixesha elide. Ngoxa i-postpartum blues iphucula phakathi kweentsuku ezimbalwa, ukudakumba kwasemva kokubeleka ephi- kwaye inokuqala kwiiveki zokuqala, iinyanga, okanye inokwenzeka kunyaka wokuqala emva kokuzalwa.
Iimpawu ezikhomba ukudakumba kwasemva kokubeleka ukuba zivela ngamandla afanelekileyo kunye nobude bexesha: ukudakumba Uninzi lwemini, ukukhala rhoqo, ubunzima bokudibana nomntwanaukuba wedwa ekuhlaleni, utshintsho oluphawulekayo kumdla wokutya, ukuphuthelwa okanye i-hypersomniaukudinwa kakhulu, ukulahlekelwa ngumdla kwimisebenzi, ukucaphuka okukhulu okanye umsindo, uloyiko oluqhubekayo lokungabi "ngumama olungileyo", iimvakalelo ze isiphoso okanye ukungabi namsebenziubunzima bokugxila okanye ukwenza izigqibo, uxhalaba ukuhlaselwa okubonakalayo okanye ukuphakuzela, kunye neengcinga ze ukuzenzakalisa kuwe okanye kusana.
Xa udandatheko lwasemva kokubeleka lunganyangwa, lunokuhlala iinyanga ezininzi. Ukucela uncedo akulona uphawu lobuthathaka, kodwa linyathelo elibalulekileyo ekubuyiseleni. Khathalela kwaye unakekele usana lwakho.
I-Postpartum psychosis: uphawu olunqabileyo lwesilumkiso
I-Postpartum psychosis inqabile, kodwa ibandakanya a ukungxamiseka yempilo yengqondo. Idla ngokuvela kwi kwiveki yokuqala emva kokubeleka kwaye kubonakala njengokudideka kunye nokudideka, iingcamango ezikhohlisayo okanye i-hallucinations, iingcamango ezigqithisileyo malunga nosana, iingxaki zokulala kakhulu, ukuphazamiseka okukhulu kunye paranoia. Ifuna Ingqalelo ekhawulezileyo.
Izizathu ezichaza indlela oziva ngayo
Akukho sizathu esinye. Emva kokubeleka, kukho ukuhla okuphawulweyo... estrogens kunye neprogesteronekunye nezinye iincindi zamadlala, ezinjengedlala lengqula, nazo zinokuguquguquka. Oku kuguquguquka kwehomoni, kudityaniswa ne ukungalaliIintlungu zomzimba neemfuno zokunyamekela usana olusandul’ ukuzalwa zinegalelo ekuguquguqukeni kweemvakalelo.
Kwingqondo kamama, iisekethe ezinxulumene ne ubuntununtunu kwimiqondiso yosanaOku kukulungelelaniswa nobuzali. Ukongezwa koku yimiba yomxholo (inkxaso, ingqesho kunye nemeko yezoqoqoshoamandla osapho) kunye neemvakalelo (utshintsho lwesazisi, iimvakalelo ze ukulahlekelwa yinkululekoizinto ezilindelekileyo) ezinokukhulisa amava.
Imiba yomngcipheko ekufuneka iqwalaselwe
Unokufumana i-postpartum blues okanye ukudakumba kwangethuba ngaphandle kwezinto ezinobungozi. Nangona kunjalo, amathuba ayanda ukuba kukho. imbali yomntu okanye yosapho ukudakumba, Ukuxhuzula okanye ukudakumba kwangaphambili emva kokubeleka; ukuba ukhe wanamava iziganeko zoxinzelelo kutshanje; ukuba kukho iingxaki zokubeleka; ukuba umntwana unaye iingxaki zempiloUkuba kukho ubunzima bokuncancisa, ukukhulelwa okuninzi, inethiwekhi yenkxaso encinci, iingxaki zobudlelwane okanye uxinzelelo lwemali; okanye ukuba ukukhulelwa bekungacwangciswanga okanye bekungafunwa.
Le miba ayingoothunywashe abamiselayo. Abasetyhini abaninzi kunye nabanye babo bafumana ixesha elizinzileyo lokubeleka xa benalo inkxaso eyaneleyo kunye nolandelelwano lobungcali.
Ixesha lokufuna uncedo lwengcali
Qhagamshelana neyakho matron, ugqirha wosapho okanye ugqirha wokubelekisa ukuba:
- Usizi, ukuxhalaba, okanye ukungakhululeki Abaphucuki emva kweeveki ezimbini.
- Iimpawu ziya zisiba mbi okanye bayakuthintela ekubeni uhoye umntwana okanye wena ngokwakho.
- Iingcamango zivela ukuzenzakalisa okanye ukwenzakalisa emntwaneni.
- Amanqaku aphawulwe ukudideka, ukubona izinto ezingekhoyo okanye iingcamango ezingaqhelekanga.
Ukuba nangaliphi na ixesha uneengcinga zokufa okanye zokwenzakalisa, funa uncedo. uncedo olungxamisekileyo: yazisa umntu omthembileyo ukuba agcine umntwana afowunele iinkonzo zikaxakeka kwilizwe lakho okanye uye kwisebe elikufutshane likaxakeka.
Unyango kunye nenkxaso esebenzayo
Kwiimeko ezikhethiweyo kwaye phantsi kwesigwebo sezonyango, kukho iziyobisi ezithile ze Uxinzelelo lwasemva kokubelekaNokuba yeyiphi na indlela oyikhethayo, kubalulekile ukuyenza ukulandelela mxinwa kwaye ulungelelanise isicwangciso kwiimfuno zakho, umxholo wakho, kunye nezinto ozikhethayo.
Omnye umzali usenokuvakalelwa ngale ndlela
Abazali kunye namanye amaqabane anenkathalo banokubakho Uxinzelelo lwasemva kokubelekaUsizi, ukudinwa, ukuxhalaba, utshintsho ebuthongweni kunye nokutya. Basemngciphekweni omkhulu ukuba baselula, nge imvelaphi ukudakumba, iingxabano zobudlelwane, okanye iingxaki zemali. Ukuyifumanisa kunye nokuyinyanga kukhusela ulwalamano kunye nokukhula komntwana.
Ukuthintela kunye nokuzinyamekela ngexesha lokubeleka
Ukuba unembali yokudakumba okanye ukudakumba emva kokubeleka, yazisa ingcali yakho yezempilo ukuze ilungiselele unyango. ukuhlolwa Ukufunyanwa kwangethuba kunye nenkxaso yothintelo. Ngethuba lokukhulelwa kunye nasemva kokubeletha, ukuhlolwa okucwangcisiweyo kunceda yenza ngokukhawulezaUkukhathalela izinto ezisisiseko kwenza umahluko: ukuphumla okuqhekekayo kodwa okuphambili, ukondla Amaxesha aneleyo okuhambisa amanzi kunye nokuphumla.
Ingcebiso yam
- Qonda ukuba usandula ukukhulelwa kwaye uzala umntwana, kusengqiqweni ukuba udiniwe kwaye ukwimeko emaxongo, phumla oko unako kwaye akufuneki ukuba ube mnye "Supermom". Cela uncedo
- Ukunikezela Kwabanye abantu, yonke imisebenzi engabalulekanga ukuba uyenze, ukuncancisa umntwana sele ifuna ngokwaneleyo.
- Lawula tyelelaNgokunokwenzeka awuyi kukwazi ukuzilungiselela kodwa iqabane lakho ngokuqinisekileyo liya kuba njalo. Wonke umntu uya kufuna ukuya kudibana nosana olusandul 'ukuzalwa kwaye ngamanye amaxesha, ngaphezulu kwenkampani emnandi, baba sisizathu sokudinwa kunye noxinzelelo olongeziweyo.
- Zikhathalele. Yitya ngokufanelekileyo kwaye ungatsibi nakuphi na ukutya.
- Sela amanzi amaninzi, kufanelekile ngamanzi ukumelana nokuncancisa.
- Zinike ixesha elithile suku ngalunye kuwe ukhathalelo lomntuUkuba ujongeka ulungile, uya kwenza indima yakho ukuphucula isimo sakho sengqondo ngokukhawuleza.
- Nxiba uye kubethwa ngumoya Ngokukhawuleza, umoya ovulekileyo kunye nelanga zisinceda ukuba sizifumane singcono.
- Yabelana ngemisebenzi nokhathalelo lomntwana neqabane lakho, kubalulekile ukuba nobabini nibe nolwazi malunga notshintsho kwindlela yenu yobomi apho ukufika kosana kuthetha kwaye utata uya kuba mkhulu umanyene yokufuya.
- Ipact Kunye neqabane lakho ixesha lasimahla lomntu ngamnye, kubalulekile ukuba nobabini niphumle kwiimvakalelo zokuba "mama" okanye "utata" ngokusisigxina. Unokucwangcisa "imva kwemini yasimahla" ngeveki nganye, okanye isiqingatha seyure yonke imihla ukuze ufunde incwadi okanye ucofe umnatha ...
- Qhagamshelana nombelekisi wakho kunye nogqirha wakho ukuvavanya imeko yakho kwaye iimfuno ukukunika isongezelelo sevithamini.
- Thatha ixesha lungelelanisa kwimeko entsha, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba, ngamanye amaxesha, uzive ukoyiswa ziimeko.
- Bhalisela ezinye ikhosi yokubelekaKwiziko lakho lezeMpilo uyakufumana iindibano zocweyo zokuthambisa iintsana, iikhosi zasemva kokubeleka okanye amaqela enkxaso yokuncancisa Kuzo zonke uyakufumana abanye oomama abaya kuyiqonda imeko yakho yeemvakalelo kunye neengxaki zakho kakuhle kuba kwenzeka into efanayo kubo.
- Zama ukungahoyi izimvo ukuba wonke umntu okujikelezile uyakukunika, uyakubona ukuba wonke umntu ubonakala eyazi into amakayenze ngamaxesha onke, kodwa ngamava abo nezimvo zabo kwaye akufuneki babe luncedo kuwe, xa unengxaki, thetha ngcono neengcali.
- Kwaye khumbula ukuba imeko ye Ukudakumba okungapheliyo Kuqhelekile emva kokubeleka, kodwa akufuneki kuthathe ixesha elide, kwiintsuku ezimbalwa uya kuqala ukuqaphela kancinci kancinci ukuba iziqendu zokudakumba ziyancipha kwaye uqala ukuba namaxesha amaninzi okuzola, ukuba akunjalo, dibana nogqirha wakho, hayi mayidlule.
- Lungelelanisa ukuhlolwa emva kokubeleka Ukubonisana kwangethuba kunye nengcali yezempilo ukuze uphonononge imo, ukuphumla, kunye nokuncancisa; ukuba ifunyenwe ngokukhawuleza, inyathelo elikhawulezayo linokuthathwa.
- Ukuba iimpawu zihlala ngaphezu kweeveki ezimbini okanye ziphazamisa ubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla, cela uncedoUkudakumba kwasemva kokubeleka kuyanyangwa kwaye kuyaphucuka.
- Khumbula ukuba iqabane lakho lisenokufuna Inkxaso yeemvakaleloUkwabelana ngenkathalo kunye nokuthetha ngendlela oziva ngayo kunciphisa uxinzelelo lwentsapho.
Udlula kwixesha elinzima kunye nelenguqu; ukuziva ulusizi, ukucaphuka, okanye ukubhideka kunokuba yinxalenye yohlengahlengiso. Ukucela inkxaso, ukuphumla xa unako, ukuzondla, kunye nokufuna uncedo ukuba ubona naziphi na iimpawu ezilumkisayo zizigqibo ezikhusela impilo-ntle yakho. Impilo yengqondo kwaye uyomeleze ukudibana nomntwana wakhoAwuwedwa: kukho izixhobo, unyango, kunye noluntu olulungele ukukuxhasa.
