Kubonakala ngathi into yendalo njengokuncancisa ixhomekeke kwiimeko ezibekwa luluntu ekuhlaleni, kuba ukuncancisa, nangona kungokwemvelo, iphenjelelwa zizithethe zenkcubeko, iinkolelo kunye nokulindelaNgokomzekelo, xa sithetha ngomama oncancisayo eAfrika oncancisa unyana wakhe oneminyaka emi-3 ubudala, akukho nto yenzekayo, yaye wonke umntu uyaqonda kuba akanako okunye ukutya anokunika umntwana wakhe. Nangona kunjalo, xa umama welizwe lonke emile kakuhle ngokwemali, siye sothuke xa sibona ibhinqa lincancisa unyana walo oneenyanga ezi-3 ubudala okanye oneminyaka emi-3 ubudala esitratweni. Kutheni le nto isenzeka?
Kuqala ndifuna ukuqala kwisiseko ukuba ukuncancisa lukhetho lukamama kwaye oku akunako kwaye akufanele kuchukunyiswe. Kodwa kukho abo bazama ukufumanisa enoba ukuncancisa kule minyaka yobudala kuyanceda okanye akuncedi ukukhuthaza unxibelelwano olukhuselekileyo phakathi kukamama nomntwana. Into endimele ndiyithethe, ngaphandle kokwenza naluphi na uphando, kukuba andazi nawuphi na umntwana owathi, ngenxa yokuncancisa ixesha elide nokufundiswa ngokwaneleyo ngokweemvakalelo ekhaya, uye wajamelana naluphi na uhlobo lokuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo okanye nantoni na efana naleyo ngenxa yokuncanciswa de unina abone kufanelekile, ekubeni eyona nto ibalulekileyo yimfundo nobukrelekrele beemvakalelo obudluliselwa ekhaya. ukusuka kwintlonipho kunye nokuncamathela okukhuselekileyo, Ngokombono wam.
Ukuncancisa Inceda ukuphucula ukubopha kunye nokuziva unqabisekile ukuba umama angadlulisela emntwaneni, kuba xa elusana, kuxhomekeke kuphela kunina noyise, kodwa kwimeko yokuncancisa, ngakumbi kunina.
Kodwa kwakhona kufuneka ndibonise ukuba ukuba awukwazi ukumncancisa umntwana wakho nangasiphi na isizathu, akuyomfuneko ukuba uzive uzisola okanye unetyala Ngoko ke, ekubeni kulukhetho lobuqu, maxa wambi ukuncancisa kufanele kupheliswe ngokuchasene neminqweno kamama. Kwakhona kufanelekile ukukhankanya ukuba imvakalelo yokunqabiseka inokudluliselwa kusana ngezinye iindlela zokubonakalisa umsa nothando, ezinjengokuphululana nokufudumala okuvela kumama nakuyise. Kuzo zombini ezi meko, injongo kukudlulisela ukhuseleko kusana nokuba luzive lukhuselekile. khulisa ukwakheka kwengqondo okucwangciswe kakuhle, kwaye kufuneka ihlale ixhaswa ngemfundo efanelekileyo esekelwe kwintlonipho kunye nothando.
Lo mxholo awukhululwanga kuwo ngxabano, yaye ngenxa yeso sizathu, ndikumema ukuba usinike uluvo lwakho ngalo mbandela. Zonke izimvo zisebenza ngokulinganayo!
Ingqondo yokuncancisa: kakhulu kunokutya
Ukuncancisa a Amava obudlelwane kunye neurohormonal: ngaphezu kokondla, ivula iisekethe ze oxytocin kunye neprolactin ezikhuthaza ukuzola, ubuntununtunu, kunye nokuziphatha okunenkathalo. Iintsana nazo "zincancisa" umxholo: ukwenza oko kwikhaya elikhuselekileyo akufani nokwenza oko kwiimeko ezixinzelelekileyo; ke ngoko, okusingqongileyo nenkxaso umcimbi.
Ipsychology yokuncancisa ibandakanya iinkolelo, imbali yomntu kunye umkhondo wendlela esasinyanyekelwa ngayoIimbekiselo zangaphambili, ubudlelwane nomzimba womntu, kunye nemiyalezo yenkcubeko ibumba izigqibo kunye namava. Akukho zikhetho "zerobhothi": Ukuncancisa ngakunye kwahlukile kwaye kuxhomekeke kwizinto ezininzi.
Ujongo lwe-ecosystem kwimpilo yokubeleka
Impilo yengqondo kamama iqondwa ngcono ngombono i-ecosystem: : I-microsystem yomama-umntwana yongezwa isibini kunye nosapho, iinkonzo zempilo, umsebenzi kunye nenkcubeko. Ngethuba lokukhulelwa, ukuzalwa komntwana kunye ne-postpartum, ziqhelekileyo iimvakalelo ezimbi, ukudinwa nokungalali. Basenokuvela Blues (usizi olufutshane), ukuxhalaba emva kokubeleka okanye ukudakumba; kwiimeko ezinqabileyo, i-puerperal psychosis. Khangela, khapha kwaye ujongele phantsi ngundoqo.
Xa ukuncancisa kubuhlungu okanye kuba nzima, kwandisa umngcipheko wokukhathazeka ngokweemvakalelo. Ngokwahlukileyo koko, xa iqukuqela, oomama abaninzi bavakalelwa amandla, ekhuselwe yioxytocin kunye nebhondi engcono. Enoba luhlobo luni lokutya, into ebalulekileyo kukugcina ukudibana kwesikhumba, jonga, i-caress kunye nempendulo ebucayi.
Iinzuzo eziphambili zengqondo
- Eyomntwana: yongeza i khusela okuqhotyoshelweyozikhona intuthuzelo yangoko kunye nemvakalelo yokuqhubeka emva kokuzalwa; izifundo ezahlukeneyo zinxulumanisa ukuncancisa kunye ukuzilawula ngcono kunye nophuhliso lwentlalo novakalelo.
- Kumama: dolophu ukuzimela, ukuncitshiswa kwe uxinzelelo, umngcipheko ophantsi we Uxinzelelo lwasemva kokubeleka xa amava anelisekile kwaye ephucula ikhonkcoKwabasetyhini abanembali yobunzima bomzimba, ukuncancisa kunokunceda buyelana nomzimba wakhe.
Ubunzima obuqhelekileyo kunye nendlela yokujongana nabo
Ekuqaleni banokuvela ukubamba ngokungafanelekanga, iintanda okanye isifo sokukrala kwebele. Kwakhona ukuhanjiswa kobisi oluphantsi ngobuchule, ukufunxa ngokungasebenziyo ngenxa ye-frenulum, ukukhula kwangaphambi kwexesha okanye ulungelelwaniso olungavuthwanga. Ubudala obuphezulu bomama kukukhulelwa kokuqala kunokuba yi umngcipheko yongezwe. Konke oku kuxutyushwa ngakumbi isithukuthezi, ukuziva unetyala, ukuthanda ukugqibelela okanye ukungabikho kwenkxaso.
Indlela elungileyo ibandakanya uvavanyo lomntu ngamnye (umama nosana), ukujonga ukuma kunye nokubamba, ukulawula iintlungu, cwangcisa ukwandisa imveliso ukuba kufanelekile kunye nemfundo malunga nokutyiswa ngenkani, ukuncancisa okuxutyiweyo okanye ukulunyulwa ngentlonipho. Abacebisi be-IBCLC kunye namaqela akhethekileyo anikezela ngenkxaso yeemvakalelo kunye nezibonelelo (amaqela, izixhobo, ukulandelela).
Zikwaphembelela ukuzalwa nzima, ukwahlukana kwangoko, ukusetyenziswa kwamayeza okubulala iintsholongwane kunye nobuhle okanye uxinzelelo lwenkcubeko olujongela phantsi ukuncancisa. Ukuthetha nge zokubeleka zasebukhosini kwaye ukwenza ulindelo lube buthathaka kunciphisa ifuthe lokuziva unetyala.
Ukuncancisa okwenziweyo kunye nokuxutywa kwebele: ukugcina ibhondi
Ukuba uncancisa okuxubeneyo okanye okwenziwayo, unokulugcina ukufudumala kobudlelwane: ulusu ulusu, ujonge emehlweni, ukubamba iingalo, thetha kwaye uphendule kwiingcamango zomntwana. Injongo kukuba kuphela kwento elahlekileyo yi ubisi lwebele, kungekhona intsebenziswano ekhuthaza uphuhliso olunempilo. Umama okhathalelweyo nowamamelayo Ngoyena mama womntwana wakhe.
Ukuncancisa ixesha elide: ubungqina kunye neentsomi
Imibutho engundoqo yabantwana icebisa ukuba ukuncancisa kuphela kwiinyanga zokuqala kwaye uqhubeke nokutya okuhambelanayo ixesha elide umama nonyana bafuna, ngaphandle kokumisela umda ongaphezulu. Uncwadi olukhoyo aluqinisekisi imingcipheko ngokwasemzimbeni okanye ngokwasengqondweni ukuyigcina ngaphaya kweminyaka emi-2-3; enyanisweni, i zisanyisa ixesha elide inokunxulunyaniswa ne ukhuseleko olukhulu kunye nezakhono ezingcono zentlalo.
Abukho ubungqina obubambekayo obunxulumanisa ukuncancisa yidityaniso; eyona mingcipheko icacileyo yile iiswekile ezongeziweyo kwiibhotile zomntwana okanye iipacifiers. Ngokuphathelele ungcoliseko lwemekobume, uhlalutyo oluthelekisayo lubonisa ukuba ibhalansi yeenzuzo ubisi lomntu luhlala lulungile.
Owona mqobo mkhulu usengulo ukwaliwa kwezentlalo okanye kubungcali ngenxa yomkhethe. Ngoko ke, ukuba intsapho ithatha isigqibo sokuqhubeka, umsebenzi weengcali inkxaso kunye nokubonelela ngezixhobo ukunqoba ubunzima, ukuzenzela kwiimeko ezizodwa (ezifana nokukhulelwa okunobungozi obuphezulu).
Izitshixo ezisebenzayo zokuxhasa kunye nokuzikhathalela
- Ichonga imiqondiso ukungonwabi ngokweemvakalelo kwaye ucele uncedo: ixhala, usizi oluqhubekayo, iingcinga eziphazamisayo okanye i-anhedonia ifuna ukuphulaphula ngovelwano kwaye, ukuba kufanelekile, ukuthunyelwa.
- Uthungelwano kunye nemithombo: amaqela okuncancisa kunye nokukhulisa abantwana, iibhanki zobisi, ubudlelwane emva kokumkelwa okanye ukwahlukaniswa, kunye nokulandela umntu okanye ukude.
- Umsebenzi kunye nokudibanisa: izicwangciso zokutsalwa, ulondolozo kunye inkxaso kwindawo yokusebenza ukuxhasa isigqibo sakho.
- Nxibelelana ngemida kunye nokulindela kwindawo yakho ukunciphisa uxinzelelo kunye nokugcina iprojekthi yakho yokutya.
Nokuba wabelana ngebele lakho okanye hayi, injongo iyafana: ibhondi, ukhuseleko kunye nokuphila kakuhleSingathanda ukufunda amava akho kunye nembono yakho ngentlonipho kwesi sihloko sinobuzaza kwiintsapho ezininzi.
