Xa uhlala ngokwakho ukukhulelwa, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba uve ukuba ixesha lihamba kancinci. Umnqweno wokudibana nomntwana wakho, ukudinwa kunye nokungonwabi okusengqiqweni okusokola kubasetyhini abakhulelweyo. Ungayichazanga eyokungalingani kwehomoni, ebangela ukuba iimvakalelo zakho zibe kukuhamba ngokukhawuleza. Kodwa inyani yile ixesha lihamba ngokukhawuleza okukhulu.
Ngenye imini ufumanisa ukuba uthetha neqabane lakho, ucinga malunga nokukhangela umntwana. Kwaye ngequbuliso, phantse ungakuqondi, unomntwana wakho ezingalweni zakho. Unokucinga ukuba kukuzolula, kodwa ngokwenene sisabelo ekwabelwana ngaso. Ayisiyiyo kuphela ukuba ngumama, ukuba utshatile ungazithelekisa iimvakalelo. Iinyanga ezininzi zilungiselela ezona nkcukacha zincinci, kunye nosuku lwakho lomtshato iyabhabha ukuba awuqapheli.
Ukukhulelwa kunomhla wokuqala kunye nomhla wokuphela. Iiveki ezingamashumi amane usuku lusuku phezulu, oluya kubuguqula ngokupheleleyo ubomi bakho. Ke, kufuneka uphile ukukhulelwa kwakho ngendlela ekhethekileyo, kuba usuku olulahlekileyo lusuku ongazukukwazi ukulwenza ngomso. Kuba ngomso uzobe sele ungumama, inqanaba elitsha nelimangalisayo oya kuba nexesha lokuphila ulonwabele kwaye ufunde ngemeko yakho entsha.
Izinto zokwenza xa ukhulelwe kuqala
- Phila ukukhulelwa kwakho ngokungathi ubunethuba elo kuphela: Mhlawumbi abantu basetyhini ekufuneka befumene unyango lokuchuma bandiqonda ngcono kunaye nabani na. Ukukhulelwa kwakho kuya kuba yinto eyodwa kwaye kungenakuphindwa, nokuba uyaphinda ukhulelwe. Kufuneke u Cwina wonke umzuzu Kweli nqanaba likhethekileyo. Sukwenza impazamo ngokuhlala ucinga, izinto onokuzitshintsha xa unokukhulelwa okwesibini.
- Nxiba ukukhulelwa kwakho ngekratshi: Abanye abantu basetyhini bahlala befihla isisu sabo esikhulelweyo ngandlela thile, hayi ukufihla imeko yabo, kodwa endaweni yoko, ukufihla amagophe. I-silhouette yakho entsha intle, umzimba wakho utshintshile ukunika ubomi. Bonisa umzimba wakho kunye nesisu sakho ngayo yonke ikratshi emhlabeni. Musa ukufihla kwiingubo ezikhululekileyo kunye nemilo encinci. Ngenye imini ungabona umfazi okhulelweyo enxibe iimpahla ezimxinwa kwaye ezibonisa isisu sakhe kwaye eziva enomona osempilweni. Musa ukulinda loo mzuzu kwaye uphile ngoku, asinokwazi ukuba uya kuphinda uyibone le meko kwakhona.
- Ifoto ngalo lonke ixesha lokukhulelwa kwakho: Kwiminyaka embalwa edlulileyo, hayi kakhulu, khange sibe nethamsanqa ngokwaneleyo lokuba sikwazi ukuthatha zonke iifoto emhlabeni kwaye sikhethe eyona ibalaseleyo. Xa sisebenzisa iikhamera zefilimu, kuye kwafuneka sizame ithamsanqa lethu lokuqala size siwele iminwe ukuze ingaphumi kugxilwe. Gcina iinkumbulo kwimifanekiso yokukhulelwa kwakhoIfoto ngalo lonke utshintsho lomzimba, indlela esisu sakho esitshintsha ngayo iveki neveki. Ngapha nangapha kwakho, kuba ngenye imini uya kuthanda ukubona oko wakwaziyo ukukwenza.
- Yonwabela amalungiselelo: Ukulungiselela ukufika kosana lwakho lokuqala lukhethekile kwaye alunakuphindwa, iinxalenye ukusuka ekuqaleni, incwadi engenanto apho uqala khona bhala amaphepha obomi bakho obutsha. Ayingombuzo wokuthenga izinto kuba zisenokungafuneki. Fumana ulwazi malunga nezinto onokuzifuna, yenza uluhlu lwezinto ezibalulekileyo uze uthelekise. Into yokuqala efunyenwe usana yahlukile. Ngokuthengwa kokuqala kosana lwakho uya kuba neemvakalelo ezizodwa kunye neemvakalelo.
- Bhala idayari yakho yokukhulelwa: Fumana incwadi yokubhalela ekukhuthazayo kwaye uyigcwalise ngeenkumbulo. Unokuncamathisela ii-ultrasound zakho, iifoto zenyanga nganye apho ubona khona ukuvela kwesisu. Bhala phantsi iimvakalelo zakho kunye neemvakalelo ozivayo kumanqanaba ahlukeneyo okukhulelwa kwakho. Ngale ndlela unokuhlala ujonga kwidayari yakho yokukhulelwa kwaye ukhumbule indlela oziva ngayo ngelo xesha.
Into ebaluleke kakhulu kukuba uhlala ukhulelwe kwaye wonwabe kweli nqanaba. Nokuba uceba ukuba nabantwana abaninzi kwixa elizayo, sukuzibekela amangomso izinto. Ukubonelela ngokukhethekileyo kwezi nyanga ezizodwa, uzikhathalele, uphathe umzimba wakho, thetha nosana lwakho lwexesha elizayo, thanda umzimba wakho Kwaye ngaphezu kwako konke, cudisa yonke imihla kunye nomzuzu. Ukukhulelwa okumnandi.